Attractive and Confident vs Ugly and Insecure

What do you look for in a romantic partner?

Someone who is attractive and confident?

Or do you prefer someone who is ugly and insecure?

Being both Ugly and Insecure are Dealbreakers for many people. It would be one thing if a person was ugly or average looking, but if they were confident about their body and didn't care what other people think then that might tick the right boxes for someone who isn't so picky.

Lots of people out there want someone who is attractive and spends a chunk of their time exercising, eating well, dieting and doing fun activities outdoors, but lets face it. Many people do not do those things as frequently as they probably should be.

Likewise, not everyone is confident.

A person could hypothetically look attractive, but be very insecure about their appearance.

Given a choice, would you rather date someone who is:

1. Attractive, but very insecure.
2. Average looking, with average insecurities.
3. Ugly, but very confident in themselves.

Personally I think 2 and 3 are the best options. 2 especially.

Of course it is possible for someone to improve their appearance and also their confidence levels. People who exercise regularly, even if they are not attractive, often feel better about their appearance and consequently feel more confident.

It could be as simple as someone who goes for frequent walks and hikes, or maybe they enjoy cycling or swimming. Or maybe they enjoy sports like archery. Or maybe they are more adventurous and like doing unusual sports or weird exercises.

Seriously. There are a lot of different sports / exercises out there that boost a person's confidence levels. There is no guarantee they will make a person more attractive, but if a person has more hobbies / sports that involve exercise then it should ultimately boost their chances in finding a mate.

It is even potentially possible for you to meet the love of your life while doing one of those sports.

But ultimately, it all comes back to the Dealbreakers. If a person can reduce their Dealbreakers by becoming more confident and/or attractive then other people should be more likely to give you a fair chance at romance.

Attractiveness, Kissing and Oral Health

First let us start with an image on how to kiss with braces... the answer? French kissing and use lots of tongue. Avoid having the teeth even near each other.

Otherwise the next step is to talk about oral health.

Seriously, would you date someone who has bad teeth? Would you kiss someone who has teeth that look like they were a chain smoker who never brushed their teeth EVER???

I call it the Bad Teeth Bogus Photo Problem. They look fine in their photos on the personals website, but when you meet them in person you discover they never showed their teeth in any of the photos online. It is just as bad as people who photoshop their images or people who use old photos of themselves from 10+ years ago.

Be honest, if you're like me then you'd probably look at their teeth and then start looking for a way to get away from them. ("So... do you like Hannibal Lecter? Because I love Silence of the Lambs and all those movies. Serial killers are awesome." That should scare them away quickly.)

And then there is the matter that bad teeth is a strong indicator that the person has problems with cleaning and doing chores. After all, if they cannot be bothered to brush their teeth regularly how often do they shower, take out the garbage, vacuum the floors, do their laundry, exercise, etc. People who are lazy about their teeth are often lazy about other factors in their life - which makes them poor choices when you are looking for a long term partner.

So what can you do to improve the quality of your teeth? Well the following page: Oral Health connected to Overall Health gives a list of 12 things to do to improve your teeth.

#1. Brush 2 to 3 times daily.

#2. Floss daily.

#3. Eat healthier meals that contain less sugar.

#4. Eat healthier snacks in-between meals.

#5. Rinse out your mouth regularly with anti-bacterial mouthwash.

#6. Chew sugar-free gum (removes bacteria from your mouth).

#7. If you are a smoker, stop smoking.

#8. Replace your toothbrush every 3 to 4 months.

#9. Schedule dental checkups regularly.

#10. Find a dentist you actually LIKE (this improves your odds of going there).

#11. Contact your dentist immediately if you have an oral health emergency. Don't delay and wait for it to get worse.

#12. If you don't have dental insurance from your workplace, look into getting dental insurance.

The above mentioned page mentions Archer Dental, a local Toronto dentist which has two locations in Rosedale and Runnymede - was voted the Best Dentist in 2013 by NOW Magazine, has 4 stars on Yelp, and is listed as The Best Dentist in Toronto by Product Reviews Canada. So if you're looking for a good dentist, start with the best.

After all when it comes to first dates and first kisses, attractiveness and nice teeth really are important. Why not put your best effort into keeping your teeth healthy and attractive?

Attractive Things Men Do

The more things that men do from this list, often without realizing they are doing it, makes them more attractive to women.

Proof that simply taking care of themselves in terms of fashion, cleanliness, and being nice can win points with women.

You Are More Beautiful Than You Think

You REALLY Are More Beautiful Than You Think.

Which means that when you go out on dates you need to stop worrying about your appearance quite so much and start having more fun.